”And another one gone, and another one gone. Another one bites the dust”

Queen

 

Exactly how many dates, text messages, whatsapp’s and online dating conversations do we need to entertain before we meet someone we are compatible with; someone that we can be in a relationship with, we like, we fancy or can even fall in love with?

Some find it instantly, within a few weeks or months of being single. Some jump from relationship to relationship and some find it takes a little longer, myself included.

Finding ‘The One’ or finding a ‘Soulmate’ is such a dangerous terminology, scientifically and logistically, the likelihood of ever meeting that one person you are most compatible with in the world (7.53 billion people living in the world today) is very slim and extremely unlikely.

I want to find love, like the the majority of people in the world do. However, since being single (2.5 years) I have dated or swapped numbers with 178 men (excluding online dating app conversations). Out of those 178 men I have only felt feelings towards one of them, the rest have been messages or progressed to one or a few dates. I often think, how many more frogs will I kiss before I find a man I would like to be in a relationship with and who wants to be in a relationship with me?

It often feels like for us singletons, the amount of bad dates and bad chat up lines on dating apps is endless…

We are ready for the next chapter to start.

Being hopeful, yet realistic is why we don’t settle for anything less than someone who can make us happy.

‘Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.’

Albert Einstein