‘You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean is dirty, the ocean does not become dirty’
Ghandi

When someone disposes of you from their life, whether they are a friend, family member, someone you are dating, your partner, your wife or husband, however strong the bond, it always hurts. Being disposed of, feels personal. Suddenly that person has chosen to eliminate you from their life. Once we were there and now we are not.

It’s difficult to understand why someone needs to be so extreme in the nature of completely culling you from their life, especially when there has been no bad behaviour on either side. For me, I believe it to be one of the most disrespectful and immature acts someone can do. It’s a kneejerk reaction to a finish which doesn’t resemble the connection and relationship that you had together.

Being disposed of is completely different from a relationship breaking down and two people going their separate ways. Being disposed of feels like you have been thrown away, disregarded and removed from someone’s life for no real reason. We can understand more so if we have behaved badly towards that person and made mistakes that they wouldn’t want to be around us anymore. But when we haven’t?

The feelings we process when someone disposes of us can delay us moving on emotionally from the situation. Suddenly we aren’t just upset, we feel used, hurt, confused and extremely pissed off. It’s important to remember that the person who has disposed of you hasn’t emotionally matured and unfortunately is acting cowardly. They are unable to have a conversation with you about a closing chapter and so they just remove you from their life. It’s up to you to determine whether that is an acceptable ending to your relationship based on your behaviour also.

We live in a disposable society, it easier to throw things away than to fix them, but you are not one of them. You are irreplaceable, one of a kind, and there will never be another you. You are not disposable.