‘When men attempt bold gestures, generally it’s considered romantic. When women do it, it’s often considered desperate or psycho.’
Carrie Bradshaw

All of us singletons feel a little needy from time to time and it can make us question; Are we desperate? It might be our time of the month or we may just feel low and need a pick me up. Being single, we often miss and crave the regular attention that you would receive from a partner when in a relationship. But those feelings does not make you desperate.

A man pursuing a women is known as romantic. A women pursing a man gets mistaken for desperate or slutty. Do not listen to society standards. If you like someone, no matter what your sex or sexual orientation is, then go for it.

It is important to understand the difference between romance, putting yourself out there and over killing a situation. It’s attractive to be confident, to know who you are & what you want and to be able to make the first move but if they aren’t messaging back, it’s because they aren’t interested, if they aren’t calling you or wanting to meet you and go on a date, its because they aren’t interested. Try to be in tune with what the other person is responding with from not just their words but also their actions.

We often hear as women that ‘men like the chase’. For me this comes from a place of emotional immaturity. I want to be happy, I do not want drama and I certainly don’t want to have to play games to keep someone interested in me.

Currently society mistakes strong women for desperate and psycho. Luckily, slowly but surely society standards are changing. Be a part of that change, not against it.