‘Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned’
Buddha

‘The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong’
Ghandi

Sadly, the majority of us know what it feels like to be cheated on. The physical pain we feel of being betrayed is like no other, but how we decide to move forward from this is up to us.

There will be a period of time where its all you can think about, appearing in your dreams, the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, it circles around and around in your head. How did this happen? Why has this happened? What does the other person have that I don’t?

Whether you decide to give your partner another chance, if that is an option open to you, or whether you decide to walk away, the only way you will start to lift the pain is to forgive. It’s near enough impossible to ever forget that the betrayal has happened and no one is asking you to do that. You may never want to speak to either person again, you may want to start a fresh. Sometimes we can get answers, sometimes we can’t, but those answers aren’t going to take the actions back. Every cheating situation is different and unique but for all of them forgiveness will be your only closure here.

Internally forgive the foolish actions of others, with or without that person, move on with your future, whichever on-going direction you have chosen.

Having been cheated on myself within a few relationships, but never having been the cheat and the more I have thought about cheating as a whole, I have questioned is it a biological need as a human animal? Only 3% of mammal species are monogamous. Humans are attempting monogamy within relationships, but how many relationships are fully faithful? Our closest relations; Apes, Gorillas and Chimpanzees are not monogamous but Gibbon Monkeys are. Is it built into human DNA from evolution that we are or are not monogamous animals?